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I have been working hard on a new website for SuccessAtReach and have decided to take  my blog to a new level. It is under construction right now. My goal is to provide everyone with better content and additional website features. I will let all of you know once it is done. I  am super excited for this!

Thanks a lot for all the support.

The new definition of what it means to be Rich and why this is important for you to know

Two to three hundred years ago if you were wealthy you most likely had a lot of land, a house that looked like a castle on the top of the hill, and a room full of gold. You were also known as the person who had the best looking horse and the person with the best cigar collection. Things have changed now and people want more than money to be wealthy.

You may be asking, “What more can you want if you have all the money in the world?” Well the truth is that in our society today, especially Western Culture, there is a demand for personal fulfillment that everyone wants but not many people can get. Divorce rates are skyrocketing and you will be surprised by how many people are taking trips to see their therapists because they aren’t happy with their life, even the rich ones.

What is the problem here?  Why are some people rich but don’t feel rich? What does it mean to feel rich? Feeling rich nowadays means being fulfilled. Feeling fulfilled means that you have to be fully satisfied with other areas in your life. Money is definitely an important aspect today. Yes, we need it I am going to admit. But as soon as we start just depending on money to make ourselves and other people happy we are in the danger zone.

You need to get a life to feel rich. You may have that pot of gold and the big mansion on top of the hill. That’s great I would be happy with that as well.

But to feel rich you need to have the following things handled:

• Make sure you spend time with your friends and family- many people today do not do this and they complaint about how they don’t have friends

• Pursue different hobbies so that you can grow as a person- There will be a point in your life where you will be so bored of your routine that you will be desperate for change. Go try some salsa dance moves or rock climbing. You will be surprised how great your mind will feel

• Give great value in others’ lives- helping others and helping other people be successful always feels good.

• Be open minded and meet all kinds of people- you will be surprised by what a great influence they can be in your life.

There is a lot I can add to the list but for now I hope you get the idea.  Go work on improving the things mentioned above. You will feel in control of your life and actually feel like you are rich.

How to be good friends with a bartender

Hey guys. Do you want a FREE drink at the bar?  Listen to this audio and improve on this  skill to get the bartenders attention.

click on the link below.

How to be friends with a bartender

Enjoy!

How being consistent will lead to your success

I was working out at the gym today and I saw a gentleman named Jim Gallagher. Bill is in his 70’s and he has been working out for many years.  We usually chat when we see each other at the gym about working out and life in general. I noticed something about Jim. Jim has a very disciplined mindset. I asked him what he does to stay very healthy and fit at his age and he told me that he has been working out and eating healthy consistently for many years. He told me he comes to the gym everyday and records his workout routine and also records his strength gain frequently. I stood there for a second. I was thinking “wow I can relate to him well because I have the same philosophy for fitness and other areas of life.”

“Consistency and patience= Success and happiness”

I told Jim that I totally agree with him. I told him that this not only applies to fitness but owning a business or leading a company as well. The most successful entrepreneurs and people who are successful in the business field carry Jim’s attitude. It is funny how so many people try to overcomplicate life and think that in order to be successful there is some magic formula. Jim records his workout so that he can refer to it and think about how he should improve his workout the next day. He has been doing this everyday for so many years and it helps him increase his bench press. He told me that, “I keep a goal of increasing a couple of pounds on my bench press every month, I’m not in a hurry to get quick results.” I told him he had a good point.

Then I thought about all these “get rich quick” products and other quick fix products that are marketed to us daily on the internet and TV to convince us that life is easy and you can get better abs, more money, and happier relationships by taking a magic pill. Are you kidding me? I noticed that there are so many people that fall for these quick fixes and think that they will achieve their dream in a few days or weeks. No way!

Follow Jim’s routine not only in the gym but in other areas of your life;

• If you want to be wealthy discipline yourself to control your spending, working efficiently, and improving by reflecting on your mistakes. Don’t look for a formula that can get you out of debt or get you rich quick.

• If you want to get lean and fit you need to put your whole heart into working out and eat healthy. Don’t try to find a magic pill to solve your weight problems.

• If you want more clients for your business pick up the phone and consistently try to reach people.

Do you see where I am getting at? Jim is very happy with what he has achieved in life and in the gym because he pushes himself to come to the gym everyday and workout. He told me that his discipline has made him happy in other areas of his life as well. He feels happy and optimistic every day.

Jim is a retired firefighter and is involved in the San Francisco Firefighters Toy Program. He still runs marathons at age 74. Check out an article written about him in the San Francisco Examiner by clicking on the link below.

http://www.sfexaminer.com/sports/Personal-Best-At-74-ex-firefighter-still-runs-to-benefit-city-kids-70440802.html

So all I have to say is this. Life isn’t easy,  you have to train yourself hard  every day. It’s all about what kind of mindset you carry in life. Follow Jim’s advice and be consistent in pursuing your goals. Don’t rush for quick results.

“Don’t forget the fundamentals of life”

You don’t need 3 hours at the Gym wake up!!

This Spring break I worked on a video where I wanted to prove to all of you that you don’t need a lot of equipment to get in shape….I know a lot of you are busy and barely have the time to step inside of a gym…so here it is…..enjoy!

By the way I want to thank my Mom for filming this.

Get over Fear of Rejection

I believe that fear is one of the emotions that people have a hard time handling,  more specifically the fear of rejection. Many of us are afraid that other people won’t accept us. The fear of rejection can be really frustrating since it can hold us back in life. Fear of rejection is present in many areas of our lives. It will come up in your social life, dating life, business world, family, and many other areas. We are all human and we all like to feel important, respected, and accepted by others.

However all of you have to realize that you will face rejection  all the time. you might have  worked on a great philosophy paper and put so much effort into it, but your professor tells you it needs improvement. You might have also put so much effort into building your business but you realize that the people you are marketing it to don’t really want your product.  Maybe you are trying to write a book and publishers respond by saying, “ We think that your book lacks great content and won’t sell in the market. We don’t want to take the risk to publish your work”. OUCH. Imagine that feeling in your stomach when someone tells you that. I think that if we don’t learn how to control our emotions when faced with rejection we will lose focus on our dream or goal.

Imagine hearing the words “No”, “I don’t like you”, “ your work isn’t good enough”, “ it is impossible for you to accomplish this”. How does your stomach feel now? The important thing to realize is that we have to be able to handle our emotions correctly in order to get through rejection. When we constantly face rejection we psychologically get exhausted and our mind tends to shift in a very negative thinking mode. After hearing those words, our self esteem drops and our inner voice tells us that “ hey I am going to avoid rejection so I am not going to pursue what I really want.”

I have been through a lot of rejection and I know there is more to come. But what I have found helpful is for me to be mentally prepared to face rejection. What do I mean by this? I mean that you have to be willing to train your mind and emotions to get over it. This means that if you have a client saying that he doesn’t like your product or tells you that it will be useful to him, you have to be willing to move on without feeling upset or put down. In order to do this you have to build up confidence. When you are confident in yourself and what you are trying to offer, you will be able to face rejection easily. Another thing to keep in mind is not to take external  comments too personally.  For example many people will stop meeting new people, especially  in the dating world because the other person doesn’t accept them for who they are. You have to realize that most of the times it has nothing to do with who you are? Your client may not want your service because he feels like he is getting a better deal elsewhere. The date may not have gone well because your partner felt that he/she wasn’t really looking for what they expected. So don’t take any of this personally.

Fear of rejection is programmed into our minds since we were little kids. Think of a time when you were a kid and you tried to join a group of friends to fit in but they just didn’t let you play with them. Maybe you got cut from your school basketball team. Most people that have gone through a lot of rejection in the past since they were young have more trouble overcoming it as they get older.  To get over this try the following:

• Start loving fear and rejection, it will make you grow as a person
• Don’t take rejection personally( 90% of people do this)
• Learn from rejection instead of being put down.

She understands women really well

I had a chance to catch up with one of my friends that I had not talked to for a while.  She was really interested in doing a “Q and A” session with me to answer some dating and relationship questions that are brought up everyday. So here we go!!

Nabil: What are some signs you can read when a man is not trying to be himself?

Vicky: I really hate when men try to show off and talk about themselves too much. I can tell that a guy is insecure when he is trying too hard to prove that he is the”MAN”.

Nabil: Why do you think some women test men? What are they testing for?

Vicky: Some women will test men to see if they get jealous. They might start giving attention to other men to see how you can handle your emotions. It ‘s fine if a man gets a little jealous, we like that. However, too much jealousy is a turnoff.

Sometimes we also test by not calling men or not acting interested. The reason we do that is because we don’t want to be pushy and needy. But too much of this will lead to playing games which isn’t healthy.

Nabil: Do you believe that attraction can occur right away or do you believe that attraction occurs gradually as you get to know each other?

Vicky: I think that attraction occurs gradually as you get to know the person.

Nabil: Is it okay for a man to be dating more then one girl at a time?

Vicky: I think that it totally fine as long as you are just getting to know more about your date. However if things progress further then it is absolutely not right to date more than one person.

Nabil: Do you have to have a lot of money to be successful with women?

Vicky: No you don’t. As long as you have a stable job and I can see that a man has dreams and ambitions he will still be able to win dates .

Nabil: What behaviors in a man tell you whether he is a potential long term partner or if he just wants a hook up? What small things matter.

Vicky: I can tell by a man’s behavior during a conversation by the things he talks about.  If he asks me questions about my life and my interests, it shows that he is interested in getting to know me more. But if he moves fast and starts getting too physical I will sense that he isn’t a suitable long term partner.

Nabil: Why do some women lead a man on and then pull back suddenly? What makes them do that

Vicky: These kind of women love the “Attention”.   A lot of women will do that to see how far a man will go to chase after them but if these kind of games continue its immature. Some women that do that are very insecure.

Nabil: Would you date a man that parties a lot or would that give you a wrong impression about him?

Vicky: Yes, I would date a man that parties as long as he is honest to me about where he is going to party and with who.

Nabil: What are some things that men don’t get or are missing when they are interacting with women or engaged in the first conversation?

Vicky:

• They start getting intimate too fast
• It’s also very annoying when they are texting constantly while we are out together
• Some men don’t know how to make confident eye contact.  The way a person looks at you can make a big difference.

Nabil: If a man was walking and randomly but politely stopped you and said, “Hey I just want to let you know you look very beautiful.” Would you be offended if it was in a kind way. Or would you be flattered and welcome the comment?

Vicky: I would kindly response and thank him. However, if he asked me for my number, I would find that random and wouldn’t give it to him.

Nabil: Do you like the whole playing “hard to get”. Do you like men that play hard to get. Does that make you chase them more. Or do you prefer not playing those kinds of games?

Vicky: The whole playing “hard to get” game people play is fun in the beginning but I don’t like it when men do that . It would be way better if they are straight forward with me so we are not stuck playing games. If you are interested in me you have to show me, don’t play hard to get games.

Nabil: How would you feel if a guy liked you and was straight forward and told you how he felt after a few dates. Or do you think guys shouldn’t express how they feel and let things happen naturally?

Vicky: Again, I would really like a guy to be straight forward about his intentions with me. I think many men are afraid to express the way they feel because they think it is against their manliness. Communication is key when interacting.

Nabil: Can you give me a few reasons why you don’t return phone calls of men that you go on dates with?

Vicky: I always return phone calls. Even if there wasn’t any chemistry on the date I will still pick up my phone.  I will usually be upfront about what I felt about the date.

Stay tuned for more helpful content coming your way!! Hope you guys are having a great weekend.

Why you shouldn’t stop dreaming the unrealistic

Last night I was thinking whether there is a limit to how much we can dream. I believe that there is no limit to dream. The question I ask myself many times is that why we are so afraid to dream very big.

Fear is the one main reason that holds us back from getting what we want. The fact is that there will fear will always exist since it is a human emotion that you may never be able to control. Bu many of us let fear control our mind, body, and soul instead of being conscious about the emotion occurring.

This is the point where we need to learn how to love fear because when we fall in love with our fear we tend to enjoy the feeling of uncertainty every day. Sometimes people worry too much about the consequences of them chasing their true big dream.

They sometimes feel guilt and ashamed to dream the unrealistic because they feel that if only 1 out every 10 person in the world lives an extraordinary life why bother. But I have to say that there is nothing wrong about dreaming the unrealistic because it helps us reach out to what we really want.

Dreaming big enables us to build more character every day and at the same time forces us to make sacrifices that are worth making. Things might not go your way sometimes when you try to accomplish your dream but you have to understand that nothing is perfect and planned.

Your vision may be distorted once in a while while faced with challenges but the question is how strong are you to deal with that.

To all of you out there, don’t be afraid to dream big.

What women and men should know about each other

One of my friends, Angela, volunteered to to do “Q and A” session where I got a chance to ask her some questions regarding “dating and relationship” issues that many people have to deal with.  She specifically expands and talks about common issues that men and women face in the dating world.

So here it is:

Nabil: On a scale from 1 to 10(1 being the lowest) how well do you think men are at listening or trying to understand women?

Angela: I would say that many men are average based on my experience. I would give them a 5 or 6. Sometimes it is irritating when they are not listening or showing interest. It clearly tells me that they are not worth my time.

Nabil: How can you tell whether a man is confident or not based on his body language and behavior?

Angela: You can tell by his posture. Speaking of behavior, if a guy is too cocky or arrogant it is a big tun off. He should be original. It is also a big turn off if a guy talks about himself too much.

Nabil: What are some signs you can read when a man is not trying to be himself?

Angela: He tries to draw unnecessary attention to himself. He also starts being obnoxious and loud thinking he is cool by being drunk.  It is also easy to tell when a man is not trying to be himself when he adjusts himself based on what a woman  wants and what makes her happy while not showing who he truly is.

Nabil: Do you like randomly being approached. If you got randomly approached how would you want the man to approach?

Angela: Yes, I do actually. However I don’t like being yelled at or whistled at. Approach me in a more mature way and I will respond better.  For example if I am working at a coffee shop, ask me “what my favorite thing on the menu is or what I should recommend to eat” as a conversation starter rather than throwing a childish pick up line.

Nabil: Can you give me a few reasons why you don’t return phone calls of men that you go on dates with?

Angela: The main reason is that there was no chemistry or connection. Sometimes men will keep calling and calling and they just won’t get that I’m not interested. This will want me not to call them ever again.

Nabil: What are a few things that cause you to lose attraction in a man over a period of time? What advice would you give to men so that they don’t lose you?

Angela:

• men that put a lot of pressure on escalating
• men that talk about their ex- girlfriends
• men that are clingy and needy
• men that are not financially independent. By the way you don’t need to have a lot of money but you have to show that you have some kind of job and are heading somewhere in life.

Nabil: Why do you think some women test men? What are they testing for?

Angela: For many women it takes a while to trust a man since they want to avoid getting hurt. They test men to see whether they are faithful and loyal.  A woman doesn’t want to risk the chances of getting hurt.

Nabil: Do you believe that attraction can occur right away or do you believe that attraction occurs gradually as you get to know each other?

Angela: It is possible for attraction to occur instantly after meeting a man. but obviously attraction also builds up gradually as you get to know the other person and sometimes it can be unexplainable.  It is important that a guy is confident, funny, and well groomed to be attractive.

“Thanks Angela for your time.”

For all of you reading this blog, stay tuned for more videos, audio, and blogs on “dating and relationships” coming in the future.

Improve your people skills for more friends

So I worked on putting together my first audio program. This one is about how you can improve you people skills by using some of the following methods. I strongly believe that it is important to have solid communications skills in today’s world and in the future so I decided to share my thoughts with you.

Click on this link below to view my audio:

Develop people skills

Hope you guys enjoy it. Email me if you have any further questions.

Happy Holidays